“The thoughts we choose to think
are the tools we use
to paint the canvas of our lives.”

Louise Hay

More and more we are shining a light on the significance of our thoughts,
and how those thoughts ultimately shape, guide and define our lives.

Who is in control of your thoughts?

Your partner? Your mother?
Kids? Friends?
The neighbors?
Mass media?
None of those sources of influence control your thoughts…
They may present opinions, perspectives or possibilities,
but none have control over you!

You control what you think aboutand how you think about it…
(whatever “it” might be!

There is tremendous power in realizing that YOU create your life experience!

Your time on this earth is defined by what you choose to focus on…
what you choose seek out…
and what you believe to be true.

When we are at the end of our time on this earth,
our “canvas” is complete
and it is a tribute to how we spent our days.

Something to think about:
What paint are you choosing to use?
Are your thoughts adding beauty and depth
to the great work of art
that you will call
your LIFE?


“The more you seek security, the less of it you have.
But, the more you seek opportunity,
the more likely it is that you will achieve
the security that you desire.”

Brian Tracy

I was thinking about how so many people are desperately grasping at attempts to secure promises about tomorrow- hoping against hope that if they line it all up correctly, tomorrow will be a guaranteed success.
If only things could be in order today,
things would still be in order tomorrow, right?

If only it was that simple.

Security is not something we can access externally, as much as we want it to be.
It’s not in a job, or a relationship, or even in the creation of your master, detailed plan of how your life will be.
Where do we get it then?
If it’s not in being prepared, where does it come from?

Security comes from knowing yourself,
knowing your strengths and your abilities,
and believing that you have the resources, the capacity and the power to take care of yourself.
If you look for it anywhere outside of yourself, you are never going to find it.

Isn’t that great news …?
You don’t need to keep looking for it, because you already have it.
You ARE it.

(That’s a pretty big EO, or emotional orgasm, isn’t it?)

Emotional Orgasm.
There’s really no other way to say it.
Trust us, we’ve tried, but this is it.
This is the only way to describe what we’re talking about.
EO is Emotional Orgasm.
That’s right – Orgasm.
Shocking? Perhaps.
Try it on. Sit with it. Think about it. Feel it.
Look forward to it!

What is “it?”
It’s naming the “wow” moments in life. It is total fulfillment in communication.
It’s a conversation you don’t want to end with a person you gravitate towards.
It’s the amazing feeling you have when you walk away smiling after an unexpected exchange that made your day.
It can happen with someone you never thought it would.
You can have one partner… or many, and paying it forward is not only safe, it’s satisfying!

The pleasure you feel stays with you.
It can literally change your life, and the change in you can stimulate change in others.
When you feel good, and focus on being present and engaged, it changes your world.
You see the change in your relationships, your friendships, your marriage, your life.

If you know what an EO IS, you also know what it ISN’T.
You know when you’ve had one and unfortunately when you haven’t.
You know what it’s like to walk away from a conversation, situation or event and feel empty, or disconnected. You feel drained and disappointed. You feel let down and wishing that there was something more than this.
Good news…there is!

Here’s what it comes down to…

An EO comes from a place of connection, synergy and unity in conversation.
It arises out of appreciation and respect for the experience of another, and is more likely to occur when both parties are highly present and engaged.
An EO takes place in a moment of fulfillment when you feel heard and your experience validated.

Finally… YES! Someone gets me! They feel this way too! They understand! They’re really listening!

It culminates with waves of intense pleasure that stimulate one’s entire being, resulting from purposeful feedback and an exchange that is rewarding on so many levels! Through the arising and releasing of thoughts and feelings, both recipients feel a sense of gratitude for such highly intense communication. When you’ve had one, you look for more, and suddenly, opportunities are everywhere!

The validation that life can be this good can be overwhelming.
You’re not going through the motions. Or sleepwalking through life. You’re not faking it anymore.

Your outlook is renewed; your dreams restored; your cup runneth over.
This is living!
Welcome to… EO!

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Your life can be as powerfully serene, enjoyable and as magical as you would like…or not.

EO’s are not something for special occasions or holidays.
They are not a finite resource that you must carefully ration out, or save them up for a rainy day!
EO’s can be plentiful in your daily life, and you can find them everywhere…starting right now!

People will sometimes say, “I’d love to have more EO’s, if only I had time, but you see I have to do the grocery shopping, shuttle the kids, clean the house, keep people clothed and fed and clean AND I have a job, so i’m not sure I can fit those EO things in too…sorry!”

Good news- you’re right.
You do have all of those things to do, and they do take up your time.
Bad news- you couldn’t be more wrong about EO’s!
The point is that you can have them throughout your day- even doing things that you don’t think would be EO producing or EO inducing!

So, now that you’re not off the hook anymore, what does this look like?

How can picking up flea/tick spray, going food shopping, picking up the kids from soccer or meeting a potential client for lunch all produce EO’s? It’s all about you and where you’re at and what you’re looking for.
Your life, and your EO’s, are on you.
You can have an unremarkable, benign, uneventful day that is full of EO’s.
Or not.
It’s up to you.

EOpportunities is all about giving you examples of what this can look like.
We’ll share our examples- and you’re going to quickly get what this looks like, and then you’re going to start sharing YOUR examples. EO isn’t a term, it’s a movement.
Every moment of life isn’t going to be spent sitting at the end of this beautiful dock, watching the sun rise and set.
Life is messy and filled with chaos and magic, serenity and stress, moments you exhale and moments you cringe. You’re going to show up and live it all.
You’re going to EO Your Life.

Where can you have an EO?
Can you show up to return something at a store, with the line 12 people deep, and have one?
How about at work, working with a group on a pressure filled deadline, and two people are out sick?
What about at your kid’s soccer game, in the rain?
Just the thought of those scenarios can start to agitate, can’t they?
Is it possible to have an EO in those settings?

You want us to say, “NO! That would be absolutely absurd! You don’t even have to TRY in those situations, because it’s not possible!”
Bad news.
We’re not going to say that.
Why not? Because you get to decide the meaning in life.
You get to decide how you choose to filter things and give meaning to experiences.
Let’s say it again. You CHOOSE it.

There is a lot of power in that, but a lot of people also get really fired up when we throw that word around.
The word “choice” makes feathers ruffle and scowls start scowling.
It upsets people because things happen and we choose what we want to do with them- and some of us are in comfortable patterns of choosing to look for, find and focus on the negative.

Newsflash: You seek evidence that supports your position.
If you think it’s bad, it will be and you’ll make sure you can prove that this moment was a nightmare that nobody should have to live through. Next time you’re in a situation that is ruffling your feathers, do a quick check in and decide if this is working for you. Is it possible that there is another position, or perspective, or lens that you could use that would shift how you feel? Could you find another angle that would work better for you, your sanity, your mood, your life?
Try it.
Because you’re hip and cool, and ruffled feathers went out in the ’80’s.

“Each moment is a place you’ve never been.”

mark strand

Does this help?
Does this give the permission (and the freedom) to being open to learning?
Does this hold the potential, the promise,
and the possibility for growth?

If each moment is a place you have never been, could that make room in life for you to accept any imperfections or errors you might make?
How about making it acceptable to have a little uncertainty, or apprehension, in your world?

So often we fight and resist any situation that we do not have complete mastery,
for fear of failing…or, just for fear of not fully knowing.

It can be so beautiful to be in a place we have never been…
but, too often we aren’t open to the beauty because we are consumed with anxiety!

We need not be perfect.
Nowhere is it expected that we are to know it all, be it all, or have done it all.

All the world asks of us,
in our personal and our professional lives,
is to be fully present and show up…
Because if we are living in the moment,
in this moment,
we’re always going to get it right.
(That’s where an amazing emotional orgasm is waiting…!)


“I’d rather be a failure at something I love,
than a success at something I hate.”

George Burns

One day a break at a training turned in to an interesting conversation…
A conversation about experiences that people enjoyed, but for a variety of reasons, wouldn’t let themselves do anymore…

  • One woman said she stopped singing in the fourth grade, because she was told that she didn’t have a good voice. She loved to sing, but she stopped…and that was over 30 years ago!
  • Another participant enjoyed roller blading, but didn’t think she had the skills to do it along the beach, because people would judge her…so, she stopped soon after learning.
  • One person talked about wishing she could take a painting class, but didn’t know how to paint and thought she’d be the worst painter in the class…so, she wouldn’t sign up.
  • Another shared that she wanted to make more pottery, which she loved, but said that her pieces didn’t come out well, so she refused to bother the teacher and take another class!

How heartbreaking is this?!
Story after story of experiences people won’t let themselves have, because they fear being less than perfect.

Is there anything that would love to do, but you avoid it,
because you are scared that you are not good enough?

What if you had permission to be less than perfect?
What if you had permission to be terrible at something (absolutely awful), and that was ok, because you enjoyed it? Would you do it?

Then give yourself permission…!

If you love to sing, belt it out…
If it’s painting you crave, grab a brush..
If you dream of being an author, start writing…

Whatever it is, do it.
It’s your life, give yourself the chance to live it!



“Begin each day as if it were on purpose.”

Mary Anne Radmacher

There is such power in the basic elements of life.
Earth, wind, fire, water…
Each has a remarkable clarity of purpose.
Everyone knows what they do, and why they are needed.
Do you have a similar clarity of purpose and focus about your own life?
What is your purpose?
Your direction?
Your focus?
We are all guilty of operating on auto-pilot sometimes…
There are so many tasks, obligations and commitments to juggle,
that it’s easy to slip in to automatic pilot and just try to “get through until…”
Until what?
The end of the day?
The weekend?
The next vacation?
Is that how you want to live?
When we lose our ability to stay present, in the moment, we lose track of our lives…
It’s not a coincidence that so many people say, “where did the last …years go?”
They really have lost them.
Somewhere along the way, they gave up being present.
Each day is an opportunity to fully take in life.
Every day you have another chance to live your life with intent, focus and clarity.
How will you do that today?
It’s up to you.
Do you want to lose track of days (years), wondering where they went and how you accidentally missed so much?
Or, would you prefer to live each day of your precious life as if it were on purpose?
Today make a conscious effort to be present.
Fully focus on the moment you are in,
not the moments yet to come.
Give yourself the time, and the space, to notice your life…
as you are living it!

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People have asked us, “who are you trying to reach with EO?”
Quite simply, we’re trying to reach you.
YOU are our target audience.
Who are you?
You are busy living your life in this world and you want to make sure you fully live it.
You don’t want to miss any of the joy that’s here.
You want to make sure you’re fully equipped to find, experience and own all of it.
(Not just some of it, some of the time, which is how you fear too many live…)
You’re 21 or 41 or 81 years old.
You’re a woman.
You’re a man.
You have relationships, family, friends, hopes, fears, goals, challenges and big dreams.
We have tools, tips, perspective and strategies that can help you, as you make sure you’re living life fulfilled.

So, when you ask, “Who are you talking to?”
We reply, “We’re talking to you.”


“Most people are so busy knocking themselves out
trying to do everything they think they should do,
they never get around to do what they want to do.”

Kathleen Winsor

She was so angry.
Initially it didn’t make sense, and it was hard to follow.
Her friend had finished a training program, in an area she loved,
left her job, and opened her own business.
This infuriated her.
Why? Why was she so mad at her friend for reaching her goal?
She couldn’t understand why she wasn’t happy for her.

It’s pretty clear, from the outside, isn’t it?
Her reaction had nothing to do with her friend.

Her friend was an innocent target for her frustration.
Her friend wasn’t happy, and she took steps to change that.

It’s funny how often we resent those that do what we wish we could do.
We wonder, what do they know that we don’t?
We ponder, why can they do it and we can’t?
We lament, why are they doing it and we aren’t?

You know why someone else has it?
It’s not a mystery and there aren’t any tricks.
So, why do they have it? Simple.
Because they decided to do it, and then they actually did it.
That’s all…

You don’t need to monitor what others are doing, or getting, or succeeding at anymore…
Stop your running tally of the successes in the lives of others.

Whether it is about health, career, relationships, education, finances, a house, a car, or a pet,
start looking at what YOU want in life, and let go of what others are doing, or what they have.
This is YOUR life,
How do you want to live it?

Be busy doing YOUR thing now.
It’s time.


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