Embrace Opportunities

How do we show up in life to make sure that we’re embracing opportunities to have those moments that lead to EO’s? EO’s don’t happen if we don’t do anything..this is about the action we take to bring that joy in to our lives!

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“A candle loses none of its light by lighting another candle.”

Author: Unknown

Amazing, isn’t it?
We aren’t lessened by what we give, we are greater for it.

Love, compassion, respect, patience…
When we take care of ourselves, we never run out of these,
yet so many ration these out as if they are about to.

Some feel like showing too much is a sign of weakness.
Others feel like they need to be careful,  because there is only so much to give.
One needs only talk to a mother of one child, who has another, to understand how love just grows. She will express feeling fear that surely she will not be able to love another child as much as the first, yet when the second child arrives, she finds that her capacity to love has exponentially increased.

How does that happen?
Simple.
These are not finite resources.

We each have an endless reserve, which continues to be refilled as we give and share of ourselves.
This possibility opens the door to some self-reflection this holiday season:

  • How can you give back?
  • Where can you share more of yourself?
    (Not to diminish your power and your strength, but to increase it!)

We could all benefit from allowing more of ourselves in to the world.
How are you going to share more of you?

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“You can’t do anything about the length of your life,
but you can do something about its width and depth.”

Evan Esar

Read this quote…
Read it again…
And then, read it one more time.

Great news, isn’t it?!
You don’t get to control it all, but you get to decide a lot…

How are you living?
How gracefully are you navigating your daily life,
knowing that you do not have the promise of forever…
but you do have right now?

What are you doing that brings you happiness?
When do you make time for you?
How are you living your dreams?
How are you spending your valuable time?
Who have you decided to share your life with,
and are they aware at how fortunate they are to be part of your world?

None of us know when we will go…
So doesn’t it make sense to pay attention to how we are living each day that we DO have?

Your life is an amazing journey…
make sure you are awake as you live it!

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“Opportunity dances with those who are already on the dance floor.”

Jackson Brown

Did you go to the dance, but you’re hiding in the bathroom?
Or, have you just skipped the dance all together,
deciding to stay home (safely) on the couch…again?

How many of us crave a chance to be on the dance floor,
but we never allow ourselves to get on it?
How many of us dream of a different way of living and being,
yet we consistently hide from the opportunity to do so?

Whether we are staying in a job that doesn’t inspire us,
or a relationship that doesn’t nurture us,
how will anything change if we insist that nothing changes?

Opportunity for growth and change is there, but where are we?
Are we ready for action, or are we hiding from it?

We must show up for life if we are going to live it!

In order to dance, there are a few things we need to do..
We must acknowledge we are interested in dancing…
We must get ready to dance…
We must show up where the dancing will be…
And, when the music starts, we absolutely must dance!

How refreshing to note that it really is that simple?

Get off the couch…
Stop hiding in the bathroom,
or in the shadows of the dance floor…

Show up for your life!
Get on the dance floor
and when the music starts…
BE READY TO DANCE!!
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“The great Western disease is,
I’ll be happy when…
When I get the money.
When I get a BMW.
When I get this job.’

Well, the reality is, you never get to when.
The only way to find happiness
is to understand that happiness is not out there.
It’s in here.
And happiness is not next week.
It’s now.”

Marshall Goldsmith

Check in with yourself about how often you are waiting for your happiness to show up and arrive.
Notice how you think, and what you say, about being happy.
Pay attention to what markers or benchmarks you hold out as the tool to identify if you’re happy or not.

The “i’ll be happy when…” syndrome is impacting countless lives and keeping people locked in a state of limbo.
Are you living there too?
Isn’t it getting old?
What if you decided you deserved happiness and expected it to be fully present and engaged in your daily life.
Daily life isn’t inherently glamorous or rooted in perfection, but there IS happiness nestled in daily life- just waiting to be noticed!
If you are waiting for something to happen that will make you happy, you are missing what IS happening right now- which includes lots of love, laughter and pretty amazing “wow” moments.

Be in today.
It has a lot to offer.
Promise.

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“The thoughts we choose to think
are the tools we use
to paint the canvas of our lives.”

Louise Hay

More and more we are shining a light on the significance of our thoughts,
and how those thoughts ultimately shape, guide and define our lives.

Who is in control of your thoughts?

Your partner? Your mother?
Kids? Friends?
The neighbors?
Mass media?
None of those sources of influence control your thoughts…
They may present opinions, perspectives or possibilities,
but none have control over you!

You control what you think aboutand how you think about it…
(whatever “it” might be!

There is tremendous power in realizing that YOU create your life experience!

Your time on this earth is defined by what you choose to focus on…
what you choose seek out…
and what you believe to be true.

When we are at the end of our time on this earth,
our “canvas” is complete
and it is a tribute to how we spent our days.

Something to think about:
What paint are you choosing to use?
Are your thoughts adding beauty and depth
to the great work of art
that you will call
your LIFE?

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“The more you seek security, the less of it you have.
But, the more you seek opportunity,
the more likely it is that you will achieve
the security that you desire.”

Brian Tracy

I was thinking about how so many people are desperately grasping at attempts to secure promises about tomorrow- hoping against hope that if they line it all up correctly, tomorrow will be a guaranteed success.
If only things could be in order today,
things would still be in order tomorrow, right?

If only it was that simple.

Security is not something we can access externally, as much as we want it to be.
It’s not in a job, or a relationship, or even in the creation of your master, detailed plan of how your life will be.
Where do we get it then?
If it’s not in being prepared, where does it come from?

Security comes from knowing yourself,
knowing your strengths and your abilities,
and believing that you have the resources, the capacity and the power to take care of yourself.
Always.
If you look for it anywhere outside of yourself, you are never going to find it.

Isn’t that great news …?
You don’t need to keep looking for it, because you already have it.
You ARE it.

(That’s a pretty big EO, or emotional orgasm, isn’t it?)

Where can you have an EO?
Can you show up to return something at a store, with the line 12 people deep, and have one?
How about at work, working with a group on a pressure filled deadline, and two people are out sick?
What about at your kid’s soccer game, in the rain?
Just the thought of those scenarios can start to agitate, can’t they?
Is it possible to have an EO in those settings?

You want us to say, “NO! That would be absolutely absurd! You don’t even have to TRY in those situations, because it’s not possible!”
Bad news.
We’re not going to say that.
Why not? Because you get to decide the meaning in life.
You get to decide how you choose to filter things and give meaning to experiences.
Let’s say it again. You CHOOSE it.

There is a lot of power in that, but a lot of people also get really fired up when we throw that word around.
The word “choice” makes feathers ruffle and scowls start scowling.
It upsets people because things happen and we choose what we want to do with them- and some of us are in comfortable patterns of choosing to look for, find and focus on the negative.

Newsflash: You seek evidence that supports your position.
If you think it’s bad, it will be and you’ll make sure you can prove that this moment was a nightmare that nobody should have to live through. Next time you’re in a situation that is ruffling your feathers, do a quick check in and decide if this is working for you. Is it possible that there is another position, or perspective, or lens that you could use that would shift how you feel? Could you find another angle that would work better for you, your sanity, your mood, your life?
Try it.
Why?
Because you’re hip and cool, and ruffled feathers went out in the ’80’s.
🙂

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“Each moment is a place you’ve never been.”

mark strand

Does this help?
Does this give the permission (and the freedom) to being open to learning?
Does this hold the potential, the promise,
and the possibility for growth?

If each moment is a place you have never been, could that make room in life for you to accept any imperfections or errors you might make?
How about making it acceptable to have a little uncertainty, or apprehension, in your world?

So often we fight and resist any situation that we do not have complete mastery,
for fear of failing…or, just for fear of not fully knowing.

It can be so beautiful to be in a place we have never been…
but, too often we aren’t open to the beauty because we are consumed with anxiety!

We need not be perfect.
Nowhere is it expected that we are to know it all, be it all, or have done it all.

All the world asks of us,
in our personal and our professional lives,
is to be fully present and show up…
Because if we are living in the moment,
in this moment,
we’re always going to get it right.
(That’s where an amazing emotional orgasm is waiting…!)

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“I’d rather be a failure at something I love,
than a success at something I hate.”

George Burns

One day a break at a training turned in to an interesting conversation…
A conversation about experiences that people enjoyed, but for a variety of reasons, wouldn’t let themselves do anymore…

  • One woman said she stopped singing in the fourth grade, because she was told that she didn’t have a good voice. She loved to sing, but she stopped…and that was over 30 years ago!
  • Another participant enjoyed roller blading, but didn’t think she had the skills to do it along the beach, because people would judge her…so, she stopped soon after learning.
  • One person talked about wishing she could take a painting class, but didn’t know how to paint and thought she’d be the worst painter in the class…so, she wouldn’t sign up.
  • Another shared that she wanted to make more pottery, which she loved, but said that her pieces didn’t come out well, so she refused to bother the teacher and take another class!

How heartbreaking is this?!
Story after story of experiences people won’t let themselves have, because they fear being less than perfect.

Is there anything that would love to do, but you avoid it,
because you are scared that you are not good enough?

What if you had permission to be less than perfect?
What if you had permission to be terrible at something (absolutely awful), and that was ok, because you enjoyed it? Would you do it?

Then give yourself permission…!

If you love to sing, belt it out…
If it’s painting you crave, grab a brush..
If you dream of being an author, start writing…

Whatever it is, do it.
It’s your life, give yourself the chance to live it!

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