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“A candle loses none of its light by lighting another candle.”

Author: Unknown

Amazing, isn’t it?
We aren’t lessened by what we give, we are greater for it.

Love, compassion, respect, patience…
When we take care of ourselves, we never run out of these,
yet so many ration these out as if they are about to.

Some feel like showing too much is a sign of weakness.
Others feel like they need to be careful,  because there is only so much to give.
One needs only talk to a mother of one child, who has another, to understand how love just grows. She will express feeling fear that surely she will not be able to love another child as much as the first, yet when the second child arrives, she finds that her capacity to love has exponentially increased.

How does that happen?
Simple.
These are not finite resources.

We each have an endless reserve, which continues to be refilled as we give and share of ourselves.
This possibility opens the door to some self-reflection this holiday season:

  • How can you give back?
  • Where can you share more of yourself?
    (Not to diminish your power and your strength, but to increase it!)

We could all benefit from allowing more of ourselves in to the world.
How are you going to share more of you?
When you show up to find and feel your joy, the emotional orgasm you have will actually empower others…
Everyone wins!

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So, what is an EO, or “Emotional Orgasm?”
It is simply a “WOW” moment in life.
It’s when you are fully there, in that moment, and it feels A-MA-ZING!!

So, yes, an EO may be one of THE most incredible moments of your life, like achieving one of the most significant goals you have ever reached…
OR it could be just an every day kind of incredible moment that you want to soak up every second of, like walking on the beach watching your child make a sandcastle on a warm September afternoon.

An EO doesn’t mean that you have to reach a transformational state of peace and alignment first, then the EO shows up.  EO’s are pretty incredible because there are millions of them out there, just waiting in the wings for you to give them a head nod and allow them to bust on to the scene and give you and your life a big WOW!

You are still confused? Cynical? Let’s get a little more specific!
At work? EO’s are waiting.
At the gym? Yup. They’re there too.
How about on a busy Saturday doing errands? Ohhh…yes. They LOVE every day life. They’re there.
Even at your in-law’s house for meatloaf dinner? Wowzers- they have never missed a dinner with your in-law’s! It’s just too bad YOU seem to always miss THEM! They’re there.

EO’s abound in your life, desperately waiting for you to acknowledge them.
Today make sure you give them a shout out.
Pay attention, look for what’s right, and BE in the moment. That’s where the EO’s are waiting!
(And yes, they’re even out there in the rain! They just love inclement weather!)

Happy EO’s to you!

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“A candle loses none of its light by lighting another candle.”

Author: Unknown

Amazing, isn’t it?
We aren’t lessened by what we give, we are greater for it.

Love, compassion, respect, patience…
When we take care of ourselves, we never run out of these,
yet so many ration these out as if they are about to.

Some feel like showing too much is a sign of weakness.
Others feel like they need to be careful,  because there is only so much to give.
One needs only talk to a mother of one child, who has another, to understand how love just grows. She will express feeling fear that surely she will not be able to love another child as much as the first, yet when the second child arrives, she finds that her capacity to love has exponentially increased.

How does that happen?
Simple.
These are not finite resources.

We each have an endless reserve, which continues to be refilled as we give and share of ourselves.
This possibility opens the door to some self-reflection this holiday season:

  • How can you give back?
  • Where can you share more of yourself?
    (Not to diminish your power and your strength, but to increase it!)

We could all benefit from allowing more of ourselves in to the world.
How are you going to share more of you?

~

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“Concentrate all your thoughts on the task at hand.
The sun’s rays do not burn until brought in to focus.”

Alexander Graham Bell

How many of us live our lives feeling:

* Scattered?
* Rushed?
* Stretched?
* Distracted?
* Overextended?
* Unfocused?

We are constantly “doing,” yet seem to get nothing done!

This state of distraction has become the new version of what it means to be successful.
You must be important if you have no time.
You must be really important if you have to multi-task all the time, like when you’re at your kids’ recital, running to the store, or at your great aunt’s 90th surprise party.

You are so important.
You have proof of this because at the end of every day you feel exhausted and frazzled.
You’re actually o.k. with this because you think this is just how it is.
You think this is called life, and you just need to accept it.

Well, living like this IS how it is, for a lot of people.
But, that’s not how it needs to be.

The truth is, we are less productive when we operate at that speed, and we actually get less done!

Something to think about:
Are you accomplishing what you want to accomplish in your days?
Yes? You are? WOW! Congratulations!
No? You’re not getting it all done?
Well, here’s a radical thought…Do less.

What does that mean?
Quite simply, when you are doing something, do ONLY that.
Give your full attention to the task at hand- and do nothing else.

It sounds scary, doesn’t it?
Just try it…
and see if life feels any easier, more manageable or more enjoyable.
You can always go back to you’re whirl tomorrow.
It will be there.

Remember, you are just like the sun’s rays…
and there is nothing more powerful than being “in focus.”

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“I’ve missed over 9,000 shots in my career.
I’ve lost almost 300 games.
26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot…
and missed.
I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life.
And that is why I succeed.”

Michael Jordan

How many times do you hold back, because you’re afraid of missing?

At work, how often do you have an idea, a suggestion, a strategy that you don’t share, because you’re sure nobody would take it or like it?
How often do you think that it isn’t worth taking the risk, because success isn’t guaranteed?
It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there, and take a chance that things might not work out the way that you want.
But, what are you losing out on if you don’t take those chances?

Some will take a chance professionally, perhaps in asking for a raise/promotion or interviewing for a new job, and if it doesn’t work out the way that they had hoped, they are filled with regret for having tried, promising never to do that again!
Others may take a risk on a relationship, and if it ends, they pledge that they won’t let anyone get that close again.
Some things don’t go the way that we wanted, and that’s ok.

Imagine how often someone like Michael Jordan misses,
yet he is one of the greatest basketball players the world has ever seen.
He hasn’t failed because he misses,
he is the best because OVER AND OVER
he gets the ball and takes the shot.

What does this mean for you, in your life?

You are not going to be ensured that everything you do will work, or will be a “win.”
But, you will never win if you don’t play.

The more risks you take, the greater the chance that you will miss, some of them…
However, ultimately the greater the chances are that you will win.
Michael Jordan has missed 9,000 shots.
How about you?

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“When you fight something, you’re tied to it forever.
As long as you’re fighting it, you’re giving it power.”

Anthony de Mello

What are you waging war against?
What struggle, issue, battle or injustice are you dragging around with you…
day after day…
month after month…
and, for some,
decade after decade?

Some are very busy with what went wrong…
what didn’t happen (and should have),
what could have happened (but never did),
what was said (and shouldn’t have been)
what wasn’t said (and desperately needed to be!)
what was done (as wrong as it was)
or what wasn’t (and now it’s too late)!

Some are so consumed with the battle that they believe they should have won,
that they can’t see the toll that this is wreaking on daily life.
Using tremendous amounts of energy, so many drag it all around, tattered and worn,
wondering why they are so tired in life,
and why it’s hard for them to see the positive and celebrate what they DO have.

Is this you?
In any way, are you in this?
Do you have any frustrations, injustices, struggles or frustrations that you keep close by,
to quickly access on a daily basis?
If the answer is yes, it’s time to make peace with them.
At this point, nobody is going to win.
And, every day you keep it with you, you are losing more and more…

Today, try letting go…
Making peace is often the only way
to finally make your life yours.

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“You can’t do anything about the length of your life,
but you can do something about its width and depth.”

Evan Esar

Read this quote…
Read it again…
And then, read it one more time.

Great news, isn’t it?!
You don’t get to control it all, but you get to decide a lot…

How are you living?
How gracefully are you navigating your daily life,
knowing that you do not have the promise of forever…
but you do have right now?

What are you doing that brings you happiness?
When do you make time for you?
How are you living your dreams?
How are you spending your valuable time?
Who have you decided to share your life with,
and are they aware at how fortunate they are to be part of your world?

None of us know when we will go…
So doesn’t it make sense to pay attention to how we are living each day that we DO have?

Your life is an amazing journey…
make sure you are awake as you live it!

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“Opportunity dances with those who are already on the dance floor.”

Jackson Brown

Did you go to the dance, but you’re hiding in the bathroom?
Or, have you just skipped the dance all together,
deciding to stay home (safely) on the couch…again?

How many of us crave a chance to be on the dance floor,
but we never allow ourselves to get on it?
How many of us dream of a different way of living and being,
yet we consistently hide from the opportunity to do so?

Whether we are staying in a job that doesn’t inspire us,
or a relationship that doesn’t nurture us,
how will anything change if we insist that nothing changes?

Opportunity for growth and change is there, but where are we?
Are we ready for action, or are we hiding from it?

We must show up for life if we are going to live it!

In order to dance, there are a few things we need to do..
We must acknowledge we are interested in dancing…
We must get ready to dance…
We must show up where the dancing will be…
And, when the music starts, we absolutely must dance!

How refreshing to note that it really is that simple?

Get off the couch…
Stop hiding in the bathroom,
or in the shadows of the dance floor…

Show up for your life!
Get on the dance floor
and when the music starts…
BE READY TO DANCE!!
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“The great Western disease is,
I’ll be happy when…
When I get the money.
When I get a BMW.
When I get this job.’

Well, the reality is, you never get to when.
The only way to find happiness
is to understand that happiness is not out there.
It’s in here.
And happiness is not next week.
It’s now.”

Marshall Goldsmith

Check in with yourself about how often you are waiting for your happiness to show up and arrive.
Notice how you think, and what you say, about being happy.
Pay attention to what markers or benchmarks you hold out as the tool to identify if you’re happy or not.

The “i’ll be happy when…” syndrome is impacting countless lives and keeping people locked in a state of limbo.
Are you living there too?
Isn’t it getting old?
What if you decided you deserved happiness and expected it to be fully present and engaged in your daily life.
Daily life isn’t inherently glamorous or rooted in perfection, but there IS happiness nestled in daily life- just waiting to be noticed!
If you are waiting for something to happen that will make you happy, you are missing what IS happening right now- which includes lots of love, laughter and pretty amazing “wow” moments.

Be in today.
It has a lot to offer.
Promise.

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“The thoughts we choose to think
are the tools we use
to paint the canvas of our lives.”

Louise Hay

More and more we are shining a light on the significance of our thoughts,
and how those thoughts ultimately shape, guide and define our lives.

Who is in control of your thoughts?

Your partner? Your mother?
Kids? Friends?
The neighbors?
Mass media?
None of those sources of influence control your thoughts…
They may present opinions, perspectives or possibilities,
but none have control over you!

You control what you think aboutand how you think about it…
(whatever “it” might be!

There is tremendous power in realizing that YOU create your life experience!

Your time on this earth is defined by what you choose to focus on…
what you choose seek out…
and what you believe to be true.

When we are at the end of our time on this earth,
our “canvas” is complete
and it is a tribute to how we spent our days.

Something to think about:
What paint are you choosing to use?
Are your thoughts adding beauty and depth
to the great work of art
that you will call
your LIFE?

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