Where can you have an EO?
Can you show up to return something at a store, with the line 12 people deep, and have one?
How about at work, working with a group on a pressure filled deadline, and two people are out sick?
What about at your kid’s soccer game, in the rain?
Just the thought of those scenarios can start to agitate, can’t they?
Is it possible to have an EO in those settings?
You want us to say, “NO! That would be absolutely absurd! You don’t even have to TRY in those situations, because it’s not possible!”
We’re not going to say that.
Why not? Because you get to decide the meaning in life.
You get to decide how you choose to filter things and give meaning to experiences.
Let’s say it again. You CHOOSE it.
There is a lot of power in that, but a lot of people also get really fired up when we throw that word around.
The word “choice” makes feathers ruffle and scowls start scowling.
It upsets people because things happen and we choose what we want to do with them- and some of us are in comfortable patterns of choosing to look for, find and focus on the negative.
Newsflash: You seek evidence that supports your position.
If you think it’s bad, it will be and you’ll make sure you can prove that this moment was a nightmare that nobody should have to live through. Next time you’re in a situation that is ruffling your feathers, do a quick check in and decide if this is working for you. Is it possible that there is another position, or perspective, or lens that you could use that would shift how you feel? Could you find another angle that would work better for you, your sanity, your mood, your life?
Because you’re hip and cool, and ruffled feathers went out in the ’80’s.